Lord, make me humble — humble enough to live life without self-inflicted pressure, force or restraints; humble enough to let everything move in its natural pace; and humble enough to stop trying to know what will happen next and just let You do with me as You will.
At last, I surrendered.
Finally, I opened myself to the consequences of this calling. I was so deep in the discernment that I fell more to the other side of the weighing scale, so I made up my mind. I embraced the vocation, accepted the pain and discomfort, and allowed myself to dream of wearing the ring, veil and habit.
I knew that I was still feeble then, so I made a list of What Makes You Strong? Six things had my check mark: prayer, books, music, creative writing, family and my Charismatic community. Whenever my willpower faltered, I turned to my list and indulged in one of them.
One midnight was one of those days. I woke up and saw my phone’s light blinking — a message from my eldest sister. Ate Monette said she attended Mass and surrendered her attachments to me.
Elaine, surrendering makes the calling complete.
I cried, and I wanted to until morning. For weeks, I felt like the living dead, receiving eulogies from my friends and family. For once, I thought that the dead were luckier in a way.
After feeling my pain, I prayed, “God of the universe, I surrender my family to You. I surrender for the sake of the meaning of life. I surrender, for in the end You’re the only One we should be attached to. You’re the only one we should aim for anyway.” My pain was not in vain. I smiled at that profoundness, then went back to sleep.
We got busy the next few weeks, and I liked it. “You are the congregation’s babies. We don’t want our aspirants to get stressed or tired. There’s time for that. Soon, you’ll be very busy, and you’ll be missing this,” the sisters would say. But both Nicole and I were used to busy, productive lives — for us, more activities meant happier lives.
“Good luck to both of you. I’ll be bringing your snacks here later,” Sr. Melai waved us goodbye, switched off the lights, then closed the door of the parlor room. Sr. Mar looked at us, her chubby cheeks lifted with a small smile. A video was waiting for us, projected on the opposite wall.
“So! Let’s start?”
Nicole and I had a whole-day lesson about the Commandments and Sacraments with Sr. Mar and Sr. Mean, consecutively. Sr. Mar emphasized the “loving” side of the Ten Commandments, calling them the “laws of the heart,” while Sr. Mean discussed the Seven Sacraments in detail.
We spent afternoons in the conference room, watching inspiring movies such as Fireproof and Facing the Giants while munching on nuts and biscuits, and practicing a few church songs with me on the piano and Nicole on the guitar. Since aspirancy was coming to a close, we crafted thank-you and congratulations cards for everyone. Nicole was good at making pop- up cards and designing them with real flowers, while I did most of the lettering and content writing. Sr. Melai helped us too, designing, lettering, and checking on the list of names.
I used my free time for productive activities too, writing more pieces as I could:
May every bud bloom out of my pen and mouth, or better, a string of lilies to bring joy to every heart. Lord, I pray that my words be the fresh water that quenches the thirst of the soul — that flowing river that caresses one’s dry skin…
My evening habits included drawing on my pad, applying the vanishing points and shading that I learned from our art lessons with Sr. Shelly. I could tell, from my constant consolations, that I was well-nigh on the prime, prepared to be launched to the next stage of the formation — postulancy.
One siesta time, I came across a paragraph in Thomas Green’s When the Well Runs Dry on how to distinguish the real God from the God of our imagination. He said that the real God can be present even amidst suffering, darkness or dryness — days when we are not inspired enough to bring ourselves to worship. He is not a God whom we can summon in our prayers, but Someone who “wills” things and “decides” to do things. God is alive and will continue to be even when we don’t feel like He is.
The fact that I recognized God calling me without me expecting it and me rejecting it many times could mean that He willed me to be here. Well, that was what I saw on this side of the weighing scale. But yes, the God of the universe wanted something for me — He who knew me before birth, whose cloak I had wet during my heartaches, and who stayed with me even in places where my loved ones could not — like here, in the convent.
I might not know exactly whether God wants me to become a nun or not, but I was sure of one thing — the real God loves me, not just the God of my imagination.
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