If you really want to know how you look, ask a person with Alzheimer’s disease. They say that there are no medications to control their lack of social appropriateness.
Eventually, though, this stage will pass as the disease progresses.
Over lunch, Mommy tells our boarder, Jill, that she is beautiful.
Ecstatic, Jill replies, “Oh, Mommy, thank you kaayo (so much)! Thank you gyud (really), Mommy! Love you!”
“And you believe me?” Mommy responds. Oh, Mommy. You had to take it back after making her happy.
I am not spared of her honesty. One time, she remarked how beautiful I was, and in jest, I told her that I’d known that for a long time. “How can that be? I’m telling the truth only now,” she asks. Oh, dear. Oh, Mommy.
There are other times when I attempt to elicit an annoyed response from her and find out, too late, that the joke’s on me. After our usual morning greetings, I tell her she’s beautiful. Seeing her big smile, I do a turnaround and in jest tell her she’s also ugly. Her smile is replaced by a frown. I am speechless when she immediately replies, “Like you!”
I don’t know if she is serious about it, but one time, she refused to eat. Her reason? She still had to find a husband, she said. I know better than to contradict her so I jokingly ask her not to and instead give me a turn since I’m still single. “Aw, you’re not married?” she asks. When I say no, she says, “That’s because you’re not pretty.”
My weight has also caught her eye. As we settle in for the night, I ask Mommy if I can kiss her good night. When she says yes, I lean over and kiss her three times, one for each of her children.
“Ouch. My side hurts. You’re so heavy, Dy. Why are you so heavy? You’re overweight,” she complains.
I also remember the time I returned home after spending five days in the hospital for a major surgery.
“Hello, Mommy! I miss you!” I gush. She asks me where I’d been and tells me she misses me too. I tell her I underwent an operation and show her the Opsite dressing on my abdomen hoping to get some sympathy.
“That’s good. At last you’ll lose weight,” she says. There goes my sympathy.
I have no ego when it comes to Mommy — if it means I can engage her in conversation and keep her mind active even for a short time, I can be the beast to her beauty. Love you, my dearest Mother. Mwah!
How do you cope with seeing a loved one’s life erased by Alzheimer’s?
Cindy Reynes took up a second degree to become a nurse. But when her mother got afflicted with Alzheimer’s disease, she chose not to practice her profession and instead become her mom’s primary caregiver. While caring for her mom, she faced the greatest challenge a daughter can have: to keep loving and honoring a parent who no longer remembers her — one who was fast becoming a stranger.
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